I have a confession to make…I do not own a full length mirror. *GASP*
I have not owned one for many years. I had one and it broke one day and either I kept forgetting to buy a new one or I was being cheap and didn’t want to spend the money to replace it.
But then there came a point when I no longer wanted to replace it. When I had a full length mirror that meant that every morning I could see all of my body and all of the clothes I was wearing. That’s a good thing right?
Or is it? You see, not only could I see my whole self, I could evaluate my whole self.
Did these pants make me look too wide?
Did this shirt make me look “fluffy?”
Do I need to lose weight?
Do I need to gain weight?
Should I work out more?
For me, this whole length mirror became the enemy. Why? Because we live in a society when we are constantly comparing ourselves to others or being compared to others around us. We tend to look in the mirror and instead of seeing beauty we see our insecurities, imperfections and faults.
There was something freeing that happened when I decided not to replace that mirror. My mornings weren’t spent over evaluating myself from every angle. I found myself actually feeling better about myself and my body. Sure I still had my moments of insecurities but I found myself starting to really love myself and my body for the first time in a long time. To love this body that was covered with evidence of growing and feeding four amazing children, to love this body that would never look like a super model, and to love this body that was mine.
When we redid our bathroom last year we put in a very large mirror. Until that point we had two small mirrors in our house and I could see my top half, barely. I love this huge mirror but I started to notice myself over evaluating myself again, comparing myself to others again. I had to take a step back and remember that I am a masterpiece just the way I am.
I don’t say this to sound snobby. The fact that I feel I need to clarify that I am not “full of myself” for saying that I am a masterpiece may be a part of what is wrong with our society we live in. Woman(and men) are made to feel that if they are confident in themselves than there is something wrong with them, but at the same time if we put ourselves down we are told we need to gain confidence.
We live in a world that is obsessed with the outside when we should really be obsessed with whats on the inside. Obsessed with the beauty a mirror can’t show you. Beauty that can be seen through actions, kindness, love and acceptance.
You, yes YOU, are beautiful. Step away from that mirror and go shine for all the world to see.